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“You don’t get to ask me that.”

On a related note, in case you need it:

“We’ve been over this. You already know my answer.”

“I invite you to reflect upon what is prompting you to ask me that.”

For my fancy friends who have access to healthcare. And who passive-aggressively shame me all the time for not wanting to hang out in indoor spaces.

If you truly feel that I am “living in fear” for masking-up in indoor spaces where the other people demonstrably do not give one tiny fuck about my health or the public health, then you and I are not longterm compatible friends. And I might still hang with you but not indoors. #SorryNotSorry

#FuckAllTheWayOff

“Are you invested in the survival of the human race?”

This question came from a member of my city public works department who I often interface with on important matters regarding ecosystems in my neighborhood. I value his opinions and questions immensely.

The implication behind his question was that maybe I shouldn’t get so worked up about environmental issues such as intrusive and violent landscape maintenance norms.

I had been percolating his question and attempting to formulate my answer, when fortuitously from my Facebook feed, came a beautiful onramp! Online is not all bad! Sometimes it gives us a little boost!

This person on Facebook with a wonderful page (instant follow!) made reference to trying to avert the sixth extinction.

To which I responded:

— Regarding the OP’s comment about diverting the sixth mass extinction, I don’t know if that’s possible anymore at this point, but I’m certainly going to keep trying and never give up! That aside, regardless of whether the extinction is inevitable, I am here to ease the suffering and increase the joy and comfort of my fellow humans and other fellow creatures while we are all here. A mind-set that is sort of parallel to my work as a death Doula.

Great post! I instantly follow this Facebook page and thanks to my friend Tim Bushell for sharing.

A couple of thoughts:

— My favorite alternative to air travel is … Just not choosing to fly anymore. It actually opens up worlds in many ways.

I’ve become more present and rooted in the place where I choose to inhabit.

And any travel I do – very infrequently, by bus and train, becomes a rich adventure. Even a city bus trip is filled with adventure, on a deep and granular level. Same goes even for a walk across the bridge in my own city.

That said, the OP offers many suggestions for international and even overseas travel with a low footprint. Since I am committed to no longer fly, I will use one of those modes if I should get some wanderlust in my older age. (I got to travel plenty as a young person, in a very low-key way.)

I have to say though, I’ve gotten sensitive about how we are wrecking other countries’ cultures and ecosystems. So I’ll probably just be a little old lady on foot and bicycle!

— And, Tim or any other friend reading this, I hope I’m not the only person you know who gets around by bicycle! That’s something that has to change. It’s a problem in my area too. A person who gets around by bicycle becomes “that (weird, fringe, unusual) person who rides their bicycle.”

As opposed to someone who is sensibly utilizing a mode of transport that is practical for billions of people worldwide!

— Regarding the OP’s comment about diverting the sixth mass extinction, I don’t know if that’s possible anymore at this point, but I’m certainly going to keep trying and never give up! That aside, regardless of whether the extinction is inevitable, I am here to ease the suffering and increase the joy and comfort of my fellow humans and other fellow creatures while we are all here. A mind-set that is sort of parallel to my work as a death Doula.

Great page Nigel Jones and thanks for your thought-provoking post with lots of tips based on your rich experiences. Love your trans-oceanic travel examples!

Every place has a prevailing culture. If you move someplace, to an extent you’ll do better in that place if you adjust to the culture at least somewhat.

And yet, for those of us who do activism, there are often things that we really feel an obligation to speak up about to try to change.

Sometimes speaking up can lead to feelings of shame. Like, how dare I speak against the prevailing norms.

And yet, not speaking up can lead to feelings of deep regret as it can be a violation of our moral code.

If we speak with thoughtfully strong wording, we have the potential to shake up people’s thinking and maybe shift the harmful status quo norms a bit. But then again, with strong wording we also risk being branded a fanatic or hard to deal with. (This has happened with me when I refer to mow-and-blow landscaping as “intrusive and violent.” In my own mind I’m just telling it like it is; but to the establishment it can feel like ridiculous hyperbole. And it can actually increase the resistance on the other side.)

And then again, if we try to keep our wording palatably mild and inoffensive, we risk failing to communicate the urgency of a situation.

Maybe one of the hardest things is accepting that we will rarely or never do it perfectly. But that we have to keep trying our best anyway to walk that line.

By the way, the cultural adjustment thing can also apply to cultural drift that can happen even if you’re staying in one place for years as opposed to moving to a different place.

And, to end on a positive note … Fun motivational language tidbit I saw today: A successful small-scale neighborhood developer referred to his block of various examples of “missing middle” housing as a “petting zoo of ‘missing middle’ housing.” There’s something charmingly adorable about that phrasing that piques people’s interest and doesn’t threaten their sense of safety and stability. Maybe we need some wildflower or prairie “petting zoos.”

The following paragraphs were sparked by a prompt in our group in Desireé B Stephens and Kokayi Nosakhere’s class on dismantling white supremacy culture. That class will be offered again in September by the way, and I will post the contact info. In the meantime, I highly suggest you join the intersectional allies group on Facebook, and or the EAGER group on Facebook. Both are communities of European Americans fully committed to dismantling white supremacy. This is a task that must be done in community.

Kokayi started out his post by sharing a TikTok video which I will post the link to below. The video is six minutes and very well worth a listen. I will link it below.

This TikTok creator essentially is saying that because of the extreme actions of the Trump administration, the white race is done for. Nobody is going to want to mate with us.

My response:

OK now that I have watched the video, I can say I agree with what she is conveying. Thank you so much for sharing this video with us!

Now I am going to comment from my perspective as an environmental activist / permaculture designer.

I have been very pained at the destruction wrought by white supremacy culture — which I have come to realize is the underlying culprit of all the environmental destruction including the wars etc. I feel a bottomless sadness that it took me to so late in life — and late in my career — to realize this.

However, for the rest of my life I will be working to dismantle white supremacy culture regardless of whether there’s any hope for the future of the human race on this planet or not. (As in, White supremacy culture is so destructive that I feel it could imminently destroy ALL human life on this planet.)

I actually do think there is hope, because Gaia is very forgiving if we just get our rapacious nature out of the way.

I would like to think that humans will thrive and get to have beautiful lives beyond white supremacy culture. I would like to think we can dismantle it sooner than waiting for the physical bodies to just die off.

This is also important because white supremacy culture has been internalized in many people who are not white-bodied.

Once again I am so thankful to you for choosing to engage so deeply as to teach us EAs how to dismantle white supremacy culture. What a gift, what an opportunity.

Some years ago, I wrote a book that was meant to be a practical manual for fellow environmentalists To take steps in their daily lives that would reduce their footprint and our collective footprint.

My book, with my level of awareness at the time, I was referring to the toxic destructive culture as “mainstream USA American culture.” Or “mainstream USA consumer culture.”

A few years later I started thinking, well, it’s NOT Black or brown people who are driving this. So what do I call it, so then in my talks & writings I started calling it “AENA, Anglo Euro North American culture.”

No corner of the planet is safe as long as one single particle of this culture remains. We simply must dissolve and dismantle this toxic culture.

Cultures are made up by people. Built over time, most of them. Most of them organically evolved over time in response to their environment And what brought them joy and peace and satisfaction.

Only the Anglo euro North American, white supremacy culture, was synthetically created in a relatively short burst of time and toxic energy with The most deeply unsavory of all motives.

I am grateful as an environmentalist to now have a more appropriate focus for my work of getting people motivated to care for the planet: Restore the water cycle; support and restore biodiversity; be uncompromising about equity and social justice.

Regarding what she said in the video – I would even go further than just no one’s going to want to mate with us. No one’s gonna want to hang out with us, period! Already nobody does, mostly.

Nobody is going to want to form organizations with us. Nobody is going to want to even eat with us. Nobody’s going to want to go shopping or swimming or walking or to the pub/coffeehouse or anything with us.

Humans are fundamentally social creatures. The threat of such well-deserved shunning will, I hope, be the final straw that motivates us to wake up and do the major dismantling thing to completion!

Although I really would like the motivation to stem right this minute right now from the wish to simply avoid doing more harm than we have already.

Further Exploration:

• “Trump will end the white race” — video from Winnie Lisa Auguste on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT6dPuebN/

• Class: “Self-love meditations for white people” – Next class is in September and I cannot recommend it highly enough. This is a 4-week zoom series. Contact Desireé B Stephens or Kokayi Nosakhere. (Also highly recommend following both of their pages if you are not already.)

We are doing somatic work to metabolize the trauma from the destructive toxic culture we were born into without our consent.

We are digging deep into case studies and into unpacking our own experience and beliefs together.

The purpose is to dismantle this culture and stop the deep rooted harm it’s causing all over the planet.

For more information / registration, contact Desireé B Stephens https://desireebstephens.substack.com and-or Kokayi Nosakhere royalstar907@gmail.com. (And in the meantime also follow both of their Facebook pages, their content is absolutely gold.)

The next class is being offered in September. It’s a four week series by zoom and I cannot recommend it highly enough! Not only is it in class, it’s a whole community and a nurturing container of very authentic love and accountability.

And in the meantime I highly suggest everyome follow both their pages. This is so what’s on our plates right now (as European Americans dedicated to social / environmental justice and ecological restoration).

Added later – July 11 –

Regarding the very real feelings of despair that this video can bring up:

• Regarding the idea that people in the global majority would prefer we die out, it’s worthwhile to remember that a lot of these people who would (very rationally) wish us physically gone, aren’t familiar with the concept that we CAN deconstruct the white supremacy cultural programming. In other words, we can dismantle the software regardless of whether the physical white bodies die out. If (WHEN) we dismantle this horrific toxic culture, we won’t be brutalizing the rest of the planet anymore.
• Physical races take generations to be bred out. However, toxic cultural programming can be dismantled who knows how fast? It might be faster than we think, if we get enough of us working on it in community together!

AND

— Imagine bearing and raising a child who is born FREE of murderous toxic white supremacy programming. Because the child’s mother has done the work of metabolizing her generational harm and trauma. ❤

Further Exploration:

• EAGER Community — community on Facebook

• Intersectional Allies for Transformation — community on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1KnbgkhfPb/?mibextid=K35XfP

Clotheslines + rainwater tub + gentle homemade soap = my favorite at-home eco laundromat!!

It may sound weird but I feel like it’s less work than having a washer and dryer, because I’m having a washer and dryer seems to induce people to do more laundry, bigger loads, own more clothing, etc.

Also, handwashing with mild soap in this very small-scale and gentle way means that young kids can help too! You know how little kids (and older kids too sometimes!) are always wanting to help, and they can actually get quite good at it! There are less fun activities and splashing around a rain tub on a hot summer day.

BTW here is me this morning using my “miniature washing machine” which is great for tiny loads of socks, underwear etc. We got a pretty good rain yesterday so I get to wash the clothes in nice clean rainwater.

(The miniature washing machine is a sturdy, wide-mouth big plastic jar, transparent, that used to contain some kind of snack I believe. Such containers are quite widely available in the waste stream. I’ve used old peanut butter jars as well. Of course, after the ants and a bit of dish soap have totally cleaned out the PB residue!)

The wash water can be tipped onto the patio for evaporative cooling, or used to water trees and shrubs.

See photo here on my deep green Facebook page (for as long as the will of the various technocrati moguls shall allow)!